Dating Younger Women Online

Cute Young WomanMen always ask, so . . .

Can you meet younger women online? The answer is yes!

Yes you can, but read on, because it is not necessarily easy unless you know how.

First of all, you need to believe that dating younger women is possible and understand some basics. Here is a great primer:

It doesn’t matter if you are 21 years old and think 18 year olds are younger, 30 years old, and interested in 25 year olds, or much older. I’ve dated several women 20+ years younger than me, and arguably the hottest one contacted me first!

Now online is much different from offline.

Let’s say you are a guy in your 30s or 40s or more that dresses OK (yes, women do care – first impressions matter, even your shoes matter a lot), doesn’t drool on himself, has learned how to carry on a conversation, and you are not 100 pounds overweight (a little is fine as many women like larger men). You absolutely can meet younger women in person, but online is a bit different.

Use your age, experience, and knowledge as a benefit

First, some similarities: you are an older man so use your experience and knowledge as a benefit. Do not try to dress and act like someone her age – she may be tired of “kids” her age. You have far more experience and maybe even wisdom than someone her age. You two can have experiences together that she cannot with someone her age.

Think “The Most Interesting Man in The World” from the Dos Equis ads instead of some older guy in a rock concert t-shirt wearing a backwards baseball cap. The first is fascinating; the second is grim.

On the big online dating sites like Match and OKCupid you are at a disadvantage although they CAN absolutely work. You are much better with smaller and newer as well as niche sites, many of which have younger women happy to meet a more experienced man. Now these sites change a lot so you may need to experience, but think newer sites like Zoosk, sites for fitness singles and other niches, and similar.

Your profile needs to rock!

This is not the place to examine profiles in depth, but some basics are essential to discuss here. Men communicate to transfer data, hence men’s profiles tend to be full of lists of things. Women communicate to share feelings and emotions, so get rid of the lists and clichés.

For example, instead of “I love to travel, I work hard and play hard,  . . .” try “As I’m writing it’s almost daybreak  on a beach I’ve never seen before. I’m 7 time zones from home and arrived late last night. I have a couple of days to relax and explore, and then I’ll be working 12-15 hours a day for the next week, and then a few more days to explore before heading home.” Now of course you may not be able to write anything remotely similar, but the point is that instead of listing some things everyone says (love travel, work hard, play hard) I’m giving an example and it sounds pretty cool. Also include a professional picture or two – I have one in a suit in front of an audience, but one driving a tow truck would work equally well.

Now, what do you say about age?

Some men lie blatantly. Some “shave” a few years off, like 49 instead of 50. Remember women lie too about age and more! If you are hoping for a serious relationship, starting from a lie is not a great way to go. You could mention somewhere in your profile than you shaved a few years off for “search purposes” if you’d like!

Two more tips:

  1. Ignore the age ranges they mention. Sometimes they matter, sometimes they don’t
  2. Feel free to send a second message if they do not respond to the first

Some women will not be interested in a more sophisticated man like you, but some will!

No surprise though that if you target much younger hot women online you will get fewer responses. That doesn’t mean it will not work.


6 Responses to “Dating Younger Women Online”

  1. Manny says:

    It’s tough, but possible. I met my girlfriend, who is an absolute sweetie, on one of the (as you say) “smaller and newer” sites – do not want to mention which one as I’m not sure I like the site but I like the results. My sweetie is about a dozen years younger than me and prefers mature men to boys. She actually contacted me, which was a real surprise!

    • Paul Foreman says:

      Hi Manny,
      It happens that they contact you, but it is not really common.
      An absolute killer profile, one showing what you stand for as a man, vision in that you are going somewhere, helps a lot. Men typically just have “lists of facts” instead of showing feeling, emotion, depth, and direction. Having a women friend help or at least review a profile can help a lot!

  2. Roger says:

    I’ve given up on younger women online – maybe possible, but it is sooo much easier in person I’ve found. Ignoring the age ranges and sending follow ups as you mention is the way to go though

  3. Roger says:

    Ohhh, I’d better add that women 5-10 years younger are easy (I’m almost 40). In don’t consider them substantially younger. I mean like 15-20 years younger. Also meeting them in person you find the ones that are mature enough to be worth your time. Young and hot doesn’t go very far if they are annoying or totally immature!

  4. Roger says:

    OK, took your advice from this article. It works, but it is hard. Met a wonderful cutie 17 years younger, and who knows how long it’ll last if it all, but she is a wonderful person and SHE contacted me.
    Yup, I wrote a profile that rocked and had younger female friends help me with it!

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