Best Dating Websites

Online dating is awesome, although quite honestly, many people fail at it!

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There is a steep learning curve, starting with choosing the best dating websites FOR YOU. Yup, I suggest you start with at least a couple – you do not know which may be right for you, but this site will help (we hope)!

But we are getting ahead of ourselves! First:


Women often do not like online dating because it is far from the fairy tale they’ve been told about since they were little kids about the knight on a white horse coming and sweeping them off their feet.


Men have problems because, well, they often simply do it wrong with a dull generic profile, and “hey babe” type messages.

First of all, basic social skills are essential. If, for example, you are pathologically shy we simply cannot give you professional help online! Now if you are shy, that is another issue. Shyness is normal and can be overcome.

Women usually have well developed social skills because, let’s be honest, women are more socially advanced than men. Yes, it is a stereotype, and it has a lot of truth to it.

Men often so not have any dating skills but fortunately they can be learned one great site is It is written from the male perspective. Another resource for both sexes that we highly recommend is

Although we may cover some very very basic dating skills here, that is not our primary focus at all. We will cover many of these on this site, although we will concentrate on reviewing the best dating websites and giving online dating advice is.

So, exactly what is online dating?

Is communicating with the sweetie you met last weekend on Facebook and trying to set up a date count? Well, definitions vary, however.

“Online dating (OD) or Internet dating is a dating system which allows individuals to contact and communicate with each other over the Internet, usually with the objective of developing a personal, romantic, or sexual relationship,” says Wikipedia.

The basics are straightforward. You signup to a dating website such as Match, OKCupid, or Plenty of Fish (OKCupid and Plenty of Fish have free options, so if you are not sure  . . .).

Next you write a profile describing yourself. The profile is well worth spending significant time on but just get something up to start quickly and then you can work on improving it. I strongly suggest you add a picture or more (no bare-chested pictures for men, and no selfies obviously taken in the bathroom mirror for women). Then you just sit and wait, or  . . .?

Well, for men you need to start sending messages out. We’ll go into what the messages should be like, but they need to be slightly personal. You cannot cut and paste the same message to 100 women; that simply doesn’t work. Send 5-10 messages a day, and you will get SOME replies. It’s a numbers game.

Women often send out messages too, but in general as a woman you are more likely to get messages initiated by men. If you are young and hot and new on the site, you might be inundated by messages in fact.

And those are the very very basics.


11 Responses to “Best Dating Websites”

  1. Katy P. says:

    You are right, we women are afraid of online dating (at least at first) and unhappy with it as it doesn’t have that Cinderella feel.

    But you can meet (maybe that one) incredible person that you never would have met any other way. I haven’t yet, but my two best male friends I met online. We didn’t work out romantically, but they are great guys.

    Meeting 2 new guys next week, one it turns out is a friend of a friend although we met online and our friend thinks we will be perfect together.

    We’ll see!

    • Paul Foreman says:

      Good luck Katy

      I’ve also made some great friendships with women I’ve met online, who didn’t work out romantically, but have become great friends.

  2. Brock says:

    I must admit I started and gave up on online dating several times with limited success beforehand. It is definitely working for me now, and I’m sure I’ll meet the right person before long and have met several wonderful women already.

    There were really two major things I was doing wrong before:

    1) I was on a dating site that simply didn’t suit me.

    I thought they were all pretty much the same. Boy is that wrong. I tried five different ones before finding two that are excellent for me. I should I have reviews on a site like yours to get an idea of what the sites were like. I never considered smaller niche sites at all, and I have found some of them are well suited to me, especially ones focused towards active and fit people (not that I’m ultra fit by any means, but health and fitness are important to me).

    2) I just was doing it wrong. Your advice here is great and you should keep it coming. A generic profile with a list of stuff and a stupid picture together with “You’re cute” and “Hi, let’s get a cup of coffee or a drink” opening messages just do not cut it.

    I’ve picked up a few very useful things from your site – thanks!

    • Paul Foreman says:

      Brock, thanks for taking the time for your well thought out comment.

      Yeah, absolutely, people need to research and check out usually several sites before they find ones that are great for them, hence this site. And also, yup, there IS a learning curve involved with Internet dating just like anything else valuable!

  3. Bob says:

    Great video! I hope you have more coming – I’d rather watch than read usually

  4. SAGI says:

    Getting off to a good start with dating sites is kinda maddening, but I picked up some awesome advice on this website.
    thank you!

  5. Brice says:

    Nice to see all these reviews in one place.I started totally free with POF and OKCupid – liked POF as it had more interesting women in my area than OKCupid.
    I also tried Match – agree with your comments entirely. Eventually my membership expired, and I may renew but not immediately. Looking at fitness oriented ones now – fitness singles may be the one, but need to see how many local women there are as I’m somewhat rural/low density ares

    • Paul Foreman says:

      Hi Brice, yup, if you live in the sticks you have fewer options. Some sites simply will have very few if any interesting local singles, where if you were in say NY City, almost every site has plenty of locals within a few blocks!

  6. Aqua says:

    Love the idea of starting with two sites. I started with one 3 years ago, and thought I hated online dating, that it wasn’t for me.
    Actually, that one site wasn’t for me. I have tried many sites, and maybe 1 out of 4 rocks for me. And a site that used to be good can start to be not so good for me – sites change as their members change.
    I haven’t met the love of my life yet, but I probably will online eventually – no hurry!

    • Paul Foreman says:


      That is a very common response to trying only one site – thanks for the public reinforcement. Start with at least two sites (at least one can be free!). Not all sites resonate with everyone!

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